Old world charms !

Being alone and lonely can be really energising if we put that state and stage to positive thoughts !

Whenever I travel to overseas destinations I normally miss my family, my routine chores and interactions. But it also gives me time and space to rethink and analyse my behaviour, my dealings, my handling of people and relationships whether as a son or father , brother, husband and friend. Many a times I have used such lonely moments to evaluate what I have been doing and what I ought to do or ought to have done. The best thought and ideas have always flashed in my mind when I am airborne thousands of feet up from ground when I feel so disconnected to what was happening at the groundlevel at the same time so well connected to people I love I care for. Life looks so fragile in vast expanse of time and space and at such a height you are bound to start valueing the smallest little things you did on our lovely planet.

This is the time for thinking deeply and loudly, imagining vividly and hearing silence !

And when I do this, most obscure things which we often dont see in our fight for survival comes to visible and I feel ...oh damn it , how come I could not feel, understand or relate things in perspective ?

This is a time not to be disappointed but seek new divine ideas to renew and re-engage, to correct thoughts and worldview. This is a time to realise how valuable is life and our near and dear ones !

We always have misplaced priorities in life. We trade material with sentiments, physical acquisition with emotional acquisition, perishable with eternal. To gain something we are mentally prepared to lose something. Many dreams, innumerable relationships in all forms, hope and faith have been killed because of mistakes or misplaced priorities of one or the other. By the time we realise wemademistakes it normally is too late to make amends. Thats why I often talk to myself and keep re-evaluating whenever I am alone and lonely physically but I compensate by being mentally crowded with thoughts !

One of the biggest question that has always haunted me is why success goes to head that forces fundamental changes in the outlook of person wearing it ? How we forget the very people who helped in your success ? How can you disown or feign ignorance about the people whom you grew with and took help in scripting your success ?? Innumerable such stories are abound in our society. It has happened in my life too !

Huge opportunities and advancement in life has killed old world charms and contentment. I remember my childhood when I was growing up I was so carefree and cared by my extended family members. Spending time with Uncles, aunts, grandparent, cousins, siblings, parent was a great entertainment and learning process and experience. I see my children growing up in a home of four people, me and my wife what we proudly call nuclear family to escape and evade the reality and reality is that extended family system of yore were much more attractive, useful and solid. I often miss my extended family and times spent with them.

What should I do now ?

Well, as I told you that I often use such monents of rumination and recollection in a positive way and had resolved that no success or acquisition is greater than love, respect , smile & gratutute, compassion , care and spiritual and emotional contentment. Family, friends and relatives are the biggest asset I have. If they are happy with me then they mirror me back my happiness.

More next time and till then its bye bye !

thoughtfully

sanjaoy